#GrownWomanIsh: Mind Your Business


“One thing you have to stop if you want to be successful is worrying about what everyone else is doing” – Koereyelle


There were so many takeaways from the opening night of the #GrownWomanIsh Virtual Conference! The ink from my pen couldn’t flow fast enough! It was great to hear confirmations and challenges from someone who is changing the game by helping women walk in their purpose in such an authentic way. It’s easy to sit and wonder why some people seem to have the magic touch while many seem to be sprinkling dust right? Well, it may seem that way, but Koereyelle assured us that is just simply not reality. However, if you’re going to be focused on putting in the WERK, you can’t be looking around at what everyone is doing. You have to mind your own business. The time that we’re sitting around wondering what everyone is doing is the time we should be WERKING.


“You have to be so caught up in YOURSELF and YOUR dreams that you don’t have time to look around at everyone else” – Koereyelle

It may seem like everyone else’s progress is happening so fast, but that’s far from the truth. Matter of fact, Koereyelle challenged listeners by saying “The person who you find yourself envying, should be the person who is motivating you”. Reality tells us that if everyday we choose to hustle, fight ourselves to make magic happen, then we’ll see the compounded effects revealed in our breakthrough. Koereyelle’s breakthrough may appear to be overnight success to those who don’t know her journey, but she’s clearly put in her 10,000 hours.

“You ONLY get OUT what you put IN” – Koereyelle


Twitter was on fire as listeners shared their favorite KOE quotes..

Who tuned in to night #1 of the #GrownWomanIsh conference?!?!📝

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In her illustration of the hustle behind the blessings, Koereyelle shares a childhood memory that has been etched in her mind for over 25 years. What is it about life that makes certain experiences stay in our minds forever? During her #GrownWomanIsh segment, Koereyelle painted a vivid picture of what it feels like to see everyone having fun and doing what they want to do while you’re cornered off being sharpened, pruned and refined. We all sometimes prefer the blessing without the WERK! Koereyelle’s mother, knew she wanted her daughter to not only be a success, but also one of the best to ever do it! She didn’t want Koereyelle’s birthdate to effect her strategic placement and start in school and therefore her overall education, so she trained her daughter to be so educationally advanced in a way that she was over prepared for tests and would always be on the level of children older than her.

As a 5 year old little girl, Koereyelle’s mother taught her the following 3 lessons:

1. You have to be willing to werk twice as hard for what you want

We as women, will always have to out hustle, out think and out smart the competition on a completely different level. Add our melanin to the equation and we have to almost be super human to get what we’re worth. However, Koereyelle reminded us, “You can have everything you’re willing to werk for”. This may require longer hours invested into studying your industry, building your brand, creating your sales strategy and investing into your business. But it’s worth it. Don’t expect results for the werk you’re not putting in. Don’t make excuses, keep improving and growing and watch the results show in your success. While her friends and peers were outside playing during the summer, Koereyelle, had to stay in everyday and listen to audio books. She was over prepared for her tests and was therefore always the best. When asked about her tips for obtaining sponsorships for events, Koereyelle candidly responded “Be your own damn sponsor!” #MajorKeyAlert
Recommended reading: Confessions of a WERKaholic and The Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell

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